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Homemade Baby Formula

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For whatever reason, sometimes it is impossible to continue breastfeeding after a few weeks or months.  When that happens, the big questions start-

Do I pump?
Do I buy someone else’s breastmilk?
Do I buy storebought formula?

Very rarely does it ever occur to people that they can make their own baby formula, and that is nearly as good for them as their own breastmilk.  It’s complicated and it requires a bit of an investment up front, but it can save you upwards of $1000 a year compared to storebought, upwards of $2000 a year compared to breastmilk banks, and is the healthiest alternative to natural breastmilk.  The recipe and instructions are posted below.  If anyone tries this, please let me know how it turned out!  I did this with my son for 6 months, and the result was one incredibly happy, healthy, thriving baby boy 🙂  The things I changed are- we didn’t use raw milk because we had no access to it, we didn’t use the vitamin butter by choice, and we didn’t use the cod liver oil because my husband has a severe allergy to shellfish which we were afraid my son might’ve inherited.

More information and the original recipe can be found at

Raw Milk Baby Formula

Makes 36 ounces.

Our milk-based formula takes account of the fact that human milk is richer in whey, lactose, vitamin C, niacin, and long-chain polyunsaturated fatty acids compared to cow’s milk but leaner in casein (milk protein). The addition of gelatin to cow’s milk formula will make it more digestible for the infant. Use only truly expeller-expressed oils in the formula recipes, otherwise they may lack vitamin E.

The ideal milk for baby, if he cannot be breastfed, is clean, whole raw milk from old-fashioned cows, certified free of disease, that feed on green pasture. For sources of good quality milk, see or contact a local chapter of the Weston A. Price Foundation.

If the only choice available to you is commercial milk, choose whole milk, preferably organic and unhomogenized, and culture it with a piima or kefir culture to restore enzymes (available from G.E.M. Cultures 253-588-2922 or


2 cups whole raw cow’s milk, preferably from pasture-fed cows
1/4 cup homemade liquid whey (See recipe for whey, below) Note: Do NOT use powdered whey or whey from making cheese (which will cause the formula to curdle). Use only homemade whey made from yoghurt, kefir or separated raw milk.
4 tablespoons lactose1
1/4 teaspoon bifidobacterium infantis2
2 or more tablespoons good quality cream (preferably not ultrapasteurized), more if you are using milk from Holstein cows
1/2 teaspoon unflavored high-vitamin or high-vitamin fermented cod liver oil or 1 teaspoon regular cod liver oil3
1/4 teaspoon high-vitamin butter oil (optional)1
1 teaspoon expeller-expressed sunflower oil1
1 teaspoon extra virgin olive oil1
2 teaspoons coconut oil1
2 teaspoons Frontier brand nutritional yeast flakes1
2 teaspoons gelatin1
1-7/8 cups filtered water
1/4 teaspoon acerola powder1, 2

1. Available from Radiant Life 888-593-8333,
2. Earlier versions of this web page called for 1 tsp of bifidobacterium infantis and 1 tsp of acerola powder–these were typos.
3. Use only recommended brands of cod liver oil. See our recommendations here.


Put 2 cups filtered water into a pyrex measuring pitcher and remove 2 tablespoons (that will give you 1-7/8 cups water).
Pour about half of the water into a pan and place on a medium flame.
Add the gelatin and lactose to the pan and let dissolve, stirring occasionally.
When the gelatin and lactose are dissolved, remove from heat and add the remaining water to cool the mixture.
Stir in the coconut oil and optional high-vitamin butter oil and stir until melted.
Meanwhile, place remaining ingredients into a blender.
Add the water mixture and blend about three seconds.
Place in glass bottles or a glass jar and refrigerate.
Before giving to baby, warm bottles by placing in hot water or a bottle warmer. NEVER warm bottles in a microwave oven.


Things I Wish I’d Known…

I was thinking of the best place to put this list- when you are about to go through a big life change such as marriage, getting pregnant, giving birth, moving, etc. it pays to find out as much as possible about the risks/consequences of your actions ahead of time.  The following is a list of things I wish I’d known before the major events in my life:

..Before I Got Married-

No one remembers the details, and so therefore no one cares about the small things that went wrong that only YOU would notice.

You CAN have a wedding on whatever budget you want, and have it be beautiful- my wedding only cost in the neighborhood of $5000 and that included a beautiful dress that I fell in love with ($100 sale at David’s Bridal), excellent quality catered food in buffet form, and I’m a pretty harsh critic of wedding food, a picturesque and serene venue (married on a Sunday for discount- $300 to have ceremony on deck of venue overlooking water and reception in “observatory like” building off the deck), professional photography ($500 by an independent professional), top knotch DJ and MC ($500 for ceremony and reception by independent professional), the most beautiful flower arrangements I’ve seen ($500 from a small family shop with high quality merchandise), handmade heartfelt favors (cost about $50 total), handmade elegant table decorations (cost about $20 total because venue supplied some for free), and pretty much everything else you could want from a wedding.  The only thing I will say is that in order to accomplish this successfully you have to be willing to put a lot of effort in, be well organized, and be willing to spend time on each decision.

Who you invite, where they sit, what they eat, and how long they stay does not measure how great your wedding was.  First of all, a time will come when it is not your wedding anymore, and then none of that will matter anyway.  Second, most people ultimately won’t care (or possibly even notice) who’s missing, who they sat next to, what they ate (though it might matter if it was edible), or how long they stayed.  Third, how great your wedding was depends greatly on how much you enjoyed it.  Trust me, you’ll enjoy it a lot more if you don’t sweat the small stuff and focus on what makes your wedding special for you.

Don’t let your relatives get you down- you know who I mean.  It may be your over helpful mother, your insistent mother-in-law, your opinionated aunt, your obstinate grandmother, your controlling best friend, your uninterested husband, or someone completely different.  At the end of the day, it’s still your wedding, so you are entitled to honor your opinions over those of your family and friends, and you are entitled to say “thanks but no thanks” anytime you want.  You won’t enjoy your wedding if you spend the whole time trying to please everyone else but yourself.

It takes awhile to feel a difference between dating seriously and being married- especially if you live together beforehand.  But, when you notice the difference, it will be something that sneaks up on you and touches your heart in a subtle but profound way.

Living together before getting married (as long as it complies with your beliefs) is NOT a mistake.  The reason the divorce rate is highest among these couples is because it is an easy out for all the individuals who are afraid of commitment, never intended on marrying the person they were dating in the first place, or felt trapped in the relationship for one reason or another.  What it CAN do however is teach you about yourself, your partner, your relationship, your capabilities, your comfort zone, and your faith in your life together.  Bear in mind, it’s still not the right decision for everyone.

Joining bank accounts is necessary for a balanced, respectful relationship.  However, you have to be able to discuss your finances and how they will be handled openly BEFORE doing so, and frequently afterward.

Although it sounds overused and cliche, communication really is key.  Think about this logically- if you are going to marry someone that you can’t even be open and honest with when it counts, you might want to re-examine your choices.  In a successful relationship, one member shouldn’t be constantly worried that bringing up a topic or opinion will scare away, turn off, or shut down the other member.  If you want to talk about marriage, talk about it.  If you want to talk about a house, or kids, religion, morals, plans for the future, money, habits, jobs… do so unprompted and confidently.  Not opening up to your significant other unfairly regulates them to arm’s length, breeds discontent, mistrust and often times even resentment, and keeps your relationship from ever reaching its true potential for involvement and intimacy.

Kids and Video Games

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It has come up countless times in the last 20 years how kids relate to video games.  Do they desensitize our children to violence?  Do they kill brain cells, or encourage lazy children to stay on the couch rather than play outside or form relationships?  Considering that both my husband and I have enjoyed video games since childhood, I tend to have not only strong opinions on these issues, but like to think that I am somewhat well-informed.  I think what it comes down to is deciding how each particular factor will affect your child, and acting accordingly.

Most parents are very aware of how their children cope with certain issues, and what their likely reaction will be.  They are also typically very aware of their system of beliefs and morals, and what they do and do not want their child experiencing.  Therefore, you can very easily say, “I see no harm in my child enjoying educational or certain recreational video games for _ hours a week, but I don’t want them playing any games with excessive violence.” Which, I’d like to point out for those of you who don’t already know is really a non-issue at this point anyway.  Most games that I DO believe rub on the moral fiber of our society (such as the Grand Theft Auto series- which, while fun/funny if you are old enough and intelligent enough to not take seriously, is incredibly inappropriate for most children under the age of 18) are now restricted with an “M” rating, not available to anyone under 17 to even purchase, and that is a VERY strictly enforced rule (the fine and prison sentence are both more severe than purchasing alcohol for a minor in the US).

What I think in short terms is that in most cases video games are incredibly useful.  Starting at a young age a child can learn how to read, spell, write, critically think and problem solve pretty self-sufficiently.  Although they are not the “all-powerful teaching tool” many resources would have you think, they can be great for teaching children to think for themselves, solve problems on their own without someone to fall back on, and give them a kind of comfort and familiarity with technology that is invaluable in the modern world.  It is a proven fact that a child with multiple outlets for learning- books, television, games, computers, social relationships- will have a more developed vocabulary, more efficient thinking skills, and more articulate speech.  Although sometimes not as prevalent, video games can also teach a sense of responsibility, increase hand-eye coordination, and inspire creative thinking.

Given all of this, I would have to say that what I honestly believe it comes down to (as it usually does) is good parenting.  If you are responsible enough to consider the effects of video games on your child in the first place, then I’m sure parents are dedicated enough to know when their child’s experience has passed from “educational/enjoyable” and into unhealthy and burdensome.  Much like having dessert, video games are fantastic in moderation, and when experienced in the appropriate format can only enhance a child’s learning environment.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this issue!